Dating in your 30s
Read on to hear advice, commiseration, and encouragement.
The biggest difference from dating in my 20s from dating in my 30s is how secure I feel with myself.
Whatever the situation, it can put pressure on you to do what they want, and not what you ultimately want.
Always stick to your guns and listen to your heart – such pressure should be ignored. Hitting 30 gives you a true sense of confidence and ability to know that if something isn’t right for you, that’s fine, it can leave and make room for something or someone who is right.
We wanted to find out how women navigate the dating world in their 30s, how they deal with outside and internal pressure, and what’s different about dating now than in their 20s.
So we asked real women to contribute their thoughts.
When you are in your 20s, it’s all about meeting new people, having conversations, seeing if there is a connection, having fun, and not thinking too much about the future. When you reach your 30s however, it’s as though someone has placed a weight on your shoulders.
In some ways, it is easier, because you know who you are and you won’t suffer fools gladly, or you are less likely to do so.
On the other hand, it can be harder because the pool of available men or women is less, and those who are available often have past baggage to deal with, e.g. If you are happy to deal with that baggage (because you may have some of your own), then this could be a non-issue for you.
Suddenly, there’s all this pressure to find someone and you really start to psych yourself out.
It’s unfair, but this pressure is more of a reality for women in our current society — and suddenly you feel the need to explain “why” you’re “still” single, instead of being able to live your life on your own terms.
In your 30s, you’re less likely to put up with a time waster. It’s possible that in your 20s you would have held on tightly to someone who wasn’t right for you, probably out of fear that you wouldn’t meet anyone else, or because you felt so strongly for them.