Dating professor after graduation
Or even playing into this as if it really mattered?!I have more to say now than in my 30s, and I should absolutely not be worrying about my age– though I do.Older clients, at a much greater rate than younger ones, miss the messages about attending the highest status program possible, networking intensively at conferences, publishing while still in graduate school, and competing for jobs at the highest, ‘Olympic” level of intensity. Some of it may be longitudinal–many of my older clients tell me that they viewed academia as a step AWAY from the “rat race” of a stressful career, not realizing that its requirements are just as intense and stressful. But the productivity level required of the tenure-track job search is not compatible with any kind of slowing down.Some of this is undoubtedly logistical—older students with children, for example, will not be as free to attend the after hour talks, the happy hours at the bar, the conferences, and so on, where much of the socialization of Ph. Some of this is, for lack of a better word, attitudinal—older students may be coming from successful previous careers, and are perhaps more skeptical of the status hierarchy embedded and manifested in all Ph. I realize that these observations may appear to be a case of ‘blaming the victim,’ as if I’m saying that older Ph.
And they ask, over and over, what kind of age discrimination can I expect? D who is 50, you’re going to have to go an extra mile to prove that you’re worth hiring over the 30 year old.I want the blog to be a clearinghouse of honest info about that—from people who have been there!”My former student is absolutely correct—discrimination against older women is all about patriarchy. As faithful readers know, The Professor Is In is dedicated to exposing the brutal truths of the academy to empower its most vulnerable inhabitants, and does not engage in wishful thinking about what could or should be better.But others who deviate from this approved path absolutely do.Adjuncting is the destroyer of so many peoples’ dreams…or not adjuncting per se, but the Ph D process, the sunk costs, the debt, and then not having secure employment at the end of it, and being 55 instead of 35….
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