Dating too soon after relationship
“The biggest hurdle I’ve seen people face when dating after a breakup is not comparing the people they’re seeing to their ex,” Heather Ebert, dating expert at dating site What’s Your Price, tells Bustle.
“It’s a huge ‘don’t’ that for some reason is an extremely common and hard to break habit that humans have.
“Write these down in two lists (positive characteristics and negative characteristics). Pay attention to the signs you might not be ready to start dating again, like if you still text your ex when you’re drunk or cry yourself to sleep when you think of the breakup.
“Make sure that you spend enough time healing and working through past issues and hurt, but not too much time that getting back into the dating world feels scary,” Dr.
Nikki Goldstein, sexologist, relationship expert, and author of When you’re dating after a breakup, it can be tempting to compare every person you go out with to your ex — but that’s actually an unhealthy habit that you should try to break ASAP.
“You may have unrealistic expectations as to what you want in a partner or how long it may take to find someone you want to date,” Davida Rappaport, speaker, spiritual counselor, and dating expert, tells Bustle. “Avoid talking about your ex-partner on dates or tell[ing] your dates how much you have been hurt or the reason you broke up with your ex,” Rappaport says.
“If you are emotional or angry, it will turn off any date that might prove to be a prospective partner.