Safety Planning: Breaking up is hard, and you will probably have mixed feelings about ending your relationship.
The research has mainly focused on Caucasian youth, and there are yet no studies which focus specifically on IPV in adolescent same-sex romantic relationships.
Unfortunately, dating abuse is surprisingly common. Both women and men can be hurt by partners who abuse and control them physically, sexually, emotionally, and in other ways.
Nobody deserves to be treated with disrespect or to be abused by their partners, but dating violence can be difficult to identify and hard to escape. Physical abuse includes any use of size, presence, or place. Destroying your things, crowding your space, holding you so you can't walk away, driving you out to the middle of nowhere - all are actually types of physical abuse. Sexual abuse is any sexual behavior meant to control, manipulate, humiliate, or demean another.
The literature on IPV among adolescents indicates that the rates are similar for the number of girls and boys in heterosexual relationships who report experiencing IPV, or that girls in heterosexual relationships are more likely than their male counterparts to report perpetrating IPV. stated that, unlike domestic violence in general, equal rates of IPV perpetration is a unique characteristic with regard adolescent dating violence, and that this is "perhaps because the period of adolescence, a special developmental state, is accompanied by sexual characteristics that are distinctly different from the characteristics of adult." Wekerle and Wolfe theorized that "a mutually coercive and violent dynamic may form during adolescence, a time when males and females are more equal on a physical level" and that this "physical equality allows girls to assert more power through physical violence than is possible for an adult female attacked by a fully physically mature man." Regarding studies that indicate that girls are as likely or more likely than boys to commit IPV, the authors emphasize that substantial differences exist between the genders, including that girls are significantly more likely than boys to report having experienced severe IPV, such as being threatened with a weapon, punched, strangled, beaten, burned, or raped, and are also substantially more likely than boys to need psychological help or experience physical injuries that require medical help for the abuse, and to report sexual violence as a part of dating violence.
They are also more likely to take IPV more seriously.
They can be emotionally and verbally abused, and a jealous girlfriend can keep them away from friends or isolate them socially.