Marriage after 6 months of dating
Routines set in, the hot chemistry is okay, but less hot.But with this is also a relaxing of that walking-on-eggshells behavior.But if you are feeling particularly lonely or desire to move forward in your life, you may convince yourself that your expectations have been too high, that this relationship is "good enough." The challenge is being honest with yourself, taking the time to reflect and sort through your true feelings, not compromising or watering down your life.
But the bigger danger is that it does all click and both are so caught up in the greatness of it all that neither one wants to rock the boat and spoil the magic. That both partners hold back – you don’t bring up that he was late, or that she tends to dominate the dinner conversations even though it bothers you.
The emotional side is finding that you have a lot in common, that your views of the world are the same, that you share a sense of humor or like the same music. One obvious danger or downside is that you never get beyond one or two dates.
Running along this is finding in each other what you most need – someone who listens or someone who seems decisive; someone who is gentle or someone who is strong and confident. well, literally chemistry, in this case the oxytocin that fuels the sexual attraction and attractiveness, the obsessing about the other, the feelings of falling in love. You find you have a lot in common but her personality reminds you too much of your ex.
In the beginning, I had issues communicating, and exactly like you put it, I sometimes felt upset because my partner didn't just realize on his own what was bothering me. " He kept proposing as they dated until he finally said, "Well, I'm going to buy you a ring, and you can throw it away or do whatever you want with it." So she said, "Well, I might as well pick it out..."Still married and in their sixties so I guess it worked out. You may have heard that half of marriages end in divorce, but bear in mind that most divorces come from people who are serial spouses.
Anyway, your story just reminded me of how my partner and I are together, and it made me smile. I know a few people who have been married 3 times (one lady's wedding I went to was her 7th, and it only lasted about a year,) but I know many, many people who are still happily on their first marriage. Meet online, finally meet in person 3 months later in September. We had our first daughter less than a year later, who's now 6, and we have two others youngest is 1.
Here they are: Stage 1: Oxytocin or bust This is where Tasha is at.